Tuesday, April 24, 2007

my thoughts too..

Eva wrote a great post here about the pros and cons of being a twin. Just whats been on my mind lately. I have always struggled in this aspect since the boys were born. Torn between not having enough arms or not being able to cuddle them seperatly. Lately its been at not being able to spend one on one time with them. The other night we were with friends and Noah was contently sitting on Rhonda's lap as she read stories to him. He loved it. It made me sad that I don't get to do that as often.. having two babies wiggling on your lap and fighting over who gets to chew the pages is not as peaceful as that. I love when one wakes up slightly earlier than the other and I get the chance for individual cuddles. I am encouraged that my kids will know how much I love them and when I don't have quite enough arms to hold them or enough one on one attention to give them. They do have each other and that is a beautiful thing...

6 comments:

Eva said...

Thanks Heather! I think about this too -- we usually end up reading books to the kiddos while they are lying on their backs on the floor (which we can still do because they don't move yet), but when I see a parent snuggling a kid in their lap for books I feel bad for my kiddos!

jamie said...

wow I never really thought about that before.. makes sense

Courtney said...

Heather,
You're boys are blessed to have you as great parents! :) They are equally as blessed to have each other. There isn't a day that goes by that I don't mourn the loss of Jared's twin. What would life have been like? I think I would have traded anything to have our baby here with us. To just once hold it in our arms. Life is such a gift. God created each baby so unique and vastly different... all to glorify Him and I belive show His own creativity and uniqueness. May God continue to grant you grace as you rasie your twins. I'm praying for you and know that you will do a great job with all you are given. Cherish your boys. Too loose one is a battle all of itself... God has given those boys a great gift in being twins. Even though their are cons I believe the pros heavily out weigh the other. I love you girl.

Mark , Rosalie & family said...

I know I have been asked with such a large family 'how do we show individual attention to each one of our kids'. Well somedays they don't get it, often it's in the little moments, the brief ones that you talk with one, cuddle with one ect. And reading stories to them is hilarious. I have 5 of them who want to sit close, on my knees. It just isn't possible. I have to rest in the fact that God knows the plan for our family, that they have a hope and a future in Him. These cons can also build huge character, things they would have had to learn in life later on, but instead God has given them the amazing opportunity to learn them at home in the safe environment of family. So I agree with Courtney, the pros much outweigh the cons

DavenHeather said...

I hope you didn't misunderstand me.. I love that I have twins and am super thankful for them. i would never take that for granted. But it is hard as a mom to not give one on one attention that was all I and what I interpreted Eva saying

Eva said...

I agree Heather. I feel so blessed and am thankful every day for my two kiddos, would never, ever dream of giving one up, I just sometimes feel that they get a bit cheated.