Monday, September 08, 2008

is it just this mom?

what the heck??!! it's like i am a monster or something... my kids literally cried for their dad for 30 minutes last night when he wasn't here to say good night to them and then this afternoon we started a repeat of last week... every time something would go wrong they were crying for their dad.. or when they didn't have my total attention they would cry for dad.. and seriously what is that?? it makes me so mad.. it's not like i wouldn't love to give them 100% of my attention all the time but then who would do massive amounts of laundry, sweep and mop, clean bathrooms, fold and put away piles of laundry.. and sure i would love to go through the drive through every day if it meant i could spend more time with my kids instead of cutting up healthy vegetables so they have good wholesome time consuming food to eat.. then i would love to play play play instead of putting all the dishes in the dishwasher so we have clean plates to eat on. i thought i was doing good at balancing but according to my kids i just suck at it all......

9 comments:

The Nilsen's Journey said...

Heather, I know you are doing a fabulous job!! Your boys are happy & healthy & they love you!! Daddy's have a special play relationship with their sons, Gabriel is super excited when Kev's here too...they need you just as you are doing just what you're doing! Who do they come to when they hurt their knees? Mom...God designed the relationship you & Dave have with the boys uniquely & in that there is beauty. Maybe they felt they hadn't connected with Dave much lately & that's why they felt they needed to see him, I don't know your whole situation, but I do know this: YOU ARE A GREAT MOM!!! I think you're doing pretty awesome!!

Angela said...

hey Heather - i love your posts so much! soooo awesome. I love being a part of your life. I feel like I'm there. (sort of!) I'm learning so much about being a mom from you. Things to look forward too...What normal motherhood is really like... and I know I won't be alone - cause I have these to look back on and read - when it finally does happen for me... I'll be waay more ready! Whew! so good to be normal.

Karla said...

I think Dave should just start being a real bad-ass when he's home and then the boys will be cryin' for momma!

Marcy said...

it's not just you. trust me!

Melanie said...

You're not a monster. Just a mom who can often feel unappreciated. It happens in our house a lot. But it's when I want to leave or am gone for a bit that I find out from Walter my kids actually missed ME! So cheer up, they miss you and love you. :) Sorry if this made no sense. Late night.

Colleen said...

It's been one of thoses mom-guilt weeks for me too! You are not alone!!

Jamy said...

You are not a monster at all. It happens to me too and I only work 2 days a week. Hang in there, it'll get better.
Side note. Not sure if I missed it, but have you potty trained your boys already? Awhile ago you posted about the book you were gonna try. Just wondering if it worked.

soph's mum said...

ooohhh no. when i work on the computer, eleanor has earned to climb the table, come up behind the computer and close it. or she climbs up in front of me and sits in front of it. or she takes both of her hands on either side of my face and turns my face to hers. trying to do the banking was a gong show today.

when days like that are really bad, i set a timer. for me, as much as for them. 15 minutes work, then 15 min. play. mostly i just work too much while they follow me around - or make each other scream, though..... sigh. hang in there!

Jennifer said...

You could so be describing my friend's children. It's not just you.